A few days back, my 25 year-old colleague came over to talk. She was feeling low, not because her work was not enjoyable, but because she was faced with a more serious question: she felt aimless in life. She wanted to know whether she is headed in any direction at all, and what will she get at the end of her rainbow.
She is not alone in her predicament. There are many in the Gen X, Y or whatever category who are overwhelmed by the “uselessness” as they term it, of their job, career, situation and life. They do not know what to do, where to go, whom to ask for help. They are not sure if anybody can help at all in the first place. They may have hundreds of friends on Facebook, but they are not sure which of them is really a friend. They are not sure whom they should trust. They are not sure if the relationships they enjoy will last at all.
This is a dizzy state to be in – the quarter life crisis as it is being termed - and is probably a result of the intensely competitive world we live in, where childhood ends at 7 years and late 20s is considered “old”. It’s a strange world we live in, isn’t it?
Is there an energy solution to my colleague’s situation? There definitely is because energy-wise, this state of mind comes when there is complete absence of a smooth energy flow. It is like the energy of Crawford Market. There is nothing wrong with its energy, but it takes some time and appetite to get used to it. If you are from a relatively peaceful part of town, try spending a day at Crawford Market or any other intensely crowded place and analyse how you feel. You would probably feel awful the first day, a little better the second day, and increasingly better as the days go by. The reason? Your energy will take its time to get used to another energy pattern. One cannot say how long this will take – it could take a minute or it could take years. That’s why you hear sentences like “Oh it’s years since I last went there, I just can’t handle it, you know”.
This holds true with all situations: a bride entering her sasural for the first time; the first day of a new employee; a student’s first day in school or college, etc. All these are situations when different energy patterns mix and it takes time for the synchronisation to happen.
So, what should my colleague do to deal with her situation? She and those who find themselves in a situation similar to hers can try the following:
- Accept your situation, thank yourself, and give yourself a big hug. You need to thank your body for serving you for so many years with aplomb. Think about it, how many times do we really thank ourselves?
- Analyse your basic energy flow: do you eat well and on time? Do you get 8 hours sleep given the fact most of today’s generation are nocturnal creatures? (Lack of sleep completely upsets your energy) Do you get Vitamin D that early morning sunrise provides? Do you drink 8 glasses of water everyday – after all, your body comprises 75 per cent water, and your brain 85 per cent.
- Check if you are a left-brained or a right-brained individual and see if the work you are doing is according to your personality
- Identify your passions – things that you have always wanted to in life but never got doing. Or it could be things that you did when you were younger and then left it due to lack of time. Get in touch with all these passions and be connected to them in a small way. Like music, or dance, or simply reading comics. Passions are energy providers.
- Write down all that’s clogged in your mind. Let the pen flow and do not analyse what and how you are writing. Your handwriting need not be neat and it’s okay if your grammar has gone for a toss. You need to remove the kachra from your mind first in order to think clearly. Decluttering not just of the mind, but also your house, is the easiest way to get your energy flowing.
When energy starts to flow, everything will just settle down. You will get clarity, opportunities will come and suddenly, the world, which looked like a big hellhole, will start to look very interesting.