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Lose control to gain control

All around us, we see people striving to gain control. The trust vote, the politics in parliament, the terror attacks – all attempts at gaining control. Parents try their best to control their kids, trying to prolong the day when they know their kids will stop being under their control. It’s a very tricky proposition: when should one lose control and when should one retain it.

The strategy that works best in today’s times at least, is to lose control to gain control.


The age-old concept of being in control doesn’t work anymore. What are we in control of? Can we control the terrorist who is thinking of planting a bomb in a nearby bicycle? Can we control the mosquitoes that suck our blood all night? Can we do anything to prevent the cars on the road from losing control and banging against us? Can we control the Kosi river? Can we control global superpowers from playing politics in Georgia? Why, can we control our next moment?

Well, we can’t. The more we think of controlling things, the more we are out of control. It is a misnomer to think that we are in control. We are not. When are we in control? What are we trying to control? Well, from an energy point of view, being in control of a situation means being in control of the energy that is causing that situation.

Think about it: the only thing under our control is our breath. Our breathing determines the quality and quantity of energy that flows within us and that is what we are, rather what we should, be in control of.

When a baby cries its lungs out, the mother finds herself increasingly out of control of the situation. In other words, the energy that the child is generating is way too high for the mommy to handle. If she has to calm the child, she should first reduce the energy created (by diverting the child’s attention); and then try to distribute the energy that has already got generated (by giving it other activities to do). I know this is easier said than done, and only a harrowed mother will know what it is like to manage a wailing kid, but from an energy point of view, it helps to tackle a situation from this perspective.

When the energy in us flows smoothly, the energy around us will automatically smoothen. When that happens, the events that happen in our life will be in accordance with this harmonising energy flow. In other words, things will automatically be “under control” without you consciously doing it. As many a spiritual master would say – “things happen with silken smoothness”.

You don’t need spiritual masters to certify that. We experience it so many times: there are days when everything just falls into place. Everything happens smoothly, on time, without any stress. On other days, every little chore is a struggle. How does that happen? It’s all a matter of energy, of frequency. As long as you are in control of that, everything else automatically falls into place.