It's strange, isn't it, that we spend much of our waking hours in camouflaging ourselves - in hiding our true self from the outside world. It could be in the form of make-up to hide our dermatological flaws, or clothes to hide physical irregularities, or false expressions to hide our true feelings, or having attitudes to hide our fears. Sadly, little do we realise that try as we may, we will never be able to fully succeed in painting a different (read better) picture about ourselves. That's because verbal communication is only a part of our communication package.
Largely, we communicate non-verbally, through body language, gestures, behaviour, habits, etc. Also, there are various sciences that help to read a person like a book - like physiognomy (face reading), graphology (handwriting analysis), palmistry, astrology, numerology, even doodling for that matter (which we have dealt with previously in this column), and of course, the best among them all - understanding energy levels of a person.
These are of course the formal ones. Apart from this, one can analyse personality by observing gait, sleep postures, swing of the hands while walking, hairstyle, table manners, dressing sense, email etiquette, telephone etiquette…why even from left-over tea bags!
Knowledge of these sciences helps a lot, especially when meeting people. For instance, when appearing for an interview, it would help to know the mind of the interviewer simply by understanding his gestures, doesn't it? On the other hand, if an interviewer receives a hand-written resume, he can use graphology and numerology (by seeing the birth date) to judge the candidate. And during the interview, the candidate will offer more room for discovery - his palms, gestures, clothes, facial structure, et al.
Do you realise that in the process of making fools of others, we end up making bigger fools of ourselves. The truth is we cannot camouflage ourselves fully: we spill the beans in some way or the other, often without our knowledge.
Since people communicate different types of information at different levels of understanding, you can derive immense benefits by understanding non-verbal language. Anybody with a fair idea of these sciences can make his way through life by choosing the "right" person, the "right" time, and the "right place" for doing their work.
This is a learning process that could be as difficult as learning a foreign language. Ideally, set aside some time daily to study these sciences. Buy some books on these subjects from the market. And most importantly, make it a habit to observe people. Utilise your travel time to do this exercise.
This situation can be altered by infusing doses of energy from different quarters. You could do many things - go for a walk, sit on the seashore, listen to music, play with children. In case you are unable or don’t feel like doing any of these, consciously find out your sources of energy. Each of us has some activity or avenue from where we derive our energy. For instance, Neha may revel in painting; for Naren, it may be modelling. Swati may be in her best of spirits when watching horror movies, whereas for Rabin, it may be in reading Tintin comics - each one to his or her own. These activities raise your spirits, ward off depression, act as a stress reliever, and provide that "getting-away-from-it-all" experience.
Have you heard people moaning – “Oh, I used to learn dance when I was younger…now where is the time..?” Typically, as time passes by, we forget what our childhood passions were. Maybe you do face a paucity of time, but there are many ways to keep in touch with that interest. For instance, if learning dance is not possible, how about watching dance performances, joining discussion forums on dance, teaching children dance. We often feel 24 hours are not enough. The truth is everybody has 24 hours. How is it that some are able to achieve a lot within that time, whereas others aren’t? The trick is time management, and in the case of passions and interests, all it takes is to allocate a little time – maybe half hour a day or week - to that activity to be in touch with it.
Despite our busy schedules, subconsciously we never lose contact with these passions. Something within our body gets activated every time we indulge in it. Doesn’t this explain the various interest groups that exist in a city – the kitty party tribe, the old Hindi film songs lovers’ tribe, the Art of Living tribe, et al. How about the various satsangs and the thousands that throng it? Have you wondered “How and where do these people find the time?” Well, in these cases, the individual not only derives energy from the activity, but also from the other participants in that community.
Ultimately, it boils down to providing your body with the energy it needs. And as explained, energy comes not only from food, water and sleep, but also from the various passions that you have buried deep inside you.
How does time measure from a cosmic energy point of view? The cycles of time based on the cosmos work together like the gears of a watch. Each connects with the central sacred cycle and all these "gears" rotate and also revolve - thereby creating what we can call energy portals. Did that sound confusing? Consider this then...
Every thing rotates - the universe, the solar system, earth. In fact, we term everything as 'cycles' or circles. We have a life cycle, a time cycle. We also say "Fashion has come a full circle". Many ancient cultures speak of cyclic changes in human consciousness. In the Hindu tradition, such ages are known as yugas. So, metaphysically speaking, everything is rotating and revolving.
Observe the movement of gears; you will notice that if a groove of one gear is to meet a groove of another gear, it has no other option but to wait till the rotation and revolution of both gears synchronise. How much time that will take, cannot be said. One thing is sure, though: there is no shortcut. We often experience the effect of this gear-movement in our relationships. For e.g., Ramesh and Suresh were close friends for many years. Suddenly, one fine day, they just separated and went their own ways. For many years, they didn't meet. Then, all of a sudden after many years, they meet at the marketplace, exchange numbers, and their relationship gets renewed.
The point is this meeting may look like a coincidence, but it is not. Nothing is a coincidence. It was meant to happen. The answer lies with the gear concept of time, when two gears in their cosmic map, got separated and had to wait for a period of time before being in touch again.
So, it wouldn't be wrong to say that there is a time for everything. Translated, it would mean, we will have to wait till the gears meet.
Ordinarily, we use many expressions and phrases to express ourselves. Often, they are unrelated to the actual symptom, yet we understand exactly what that sentence or phrase means. You will be amazed to know that most of these oft-used phrases have a relation to energy movements in the body. Here are some of the more famous ones:
“Responsibility weighs very heavily on his shoulders”: Why shoulders? Why not the hands or legs? Why shouldn’t we say “Responsibility weighs very heavily on his little toe”?
Answer: When we take on too much responsibility, the aura just above the shoulders becomes discoloured: it darkens and becomes thick and heavy. As a result, it exerts a pressure on the shoulders due to which you feel the ‘weight’ on that part of your body. You may have noticed that those who feel the ‘weight of responsibility’ have drooping shoulders. Their shoulders will pain, and the pain will also travel to the neck. No amount of pain balms will help, because in essence, this pain has a psycho-somatic cause.
Tip: When having a bath, vigorously rub the shoulder areas. You could use a rough cloth for this purpose. This action shakes the stagnant hardened energy in that area and will relieve not only the pain but also the ‘weight’.
“I can’t stomach this”: Why not “heart this”? Or “brain this”?
Answer: The solar plexus chakra is located near the navel and this chakra is the seat of our emotions. We habitually go to the loo to rid the body of its physical waste matter. However, we never think of discarding the millions of thoughts that bombard our mind every instant. Instead, we internalise them. In other words, we ‘stomach’ these thoughts and emotions, and as a result, they get stored in the solar plexus. They harden over a period of time, and then start to affect the nearby organs.
“He’s a pain in the neck”: You would probably use this phrase to refer to a person with whom you just can’t communicate.
Answer: The throat chakra is the centre of communication and any malfunctioning of that chakra, will cause discomfort in the neck, shoulder, and even the arms. When you meet such a person, your inner brain programming causes this chakra to malfunction a bit thereby leading to this phrase.
“Lump in my throat”: This phrase also is related to the throat chakra.
Answer: A lump in the throat is caused when you are not able to communicate or express yourself – typically, you get a lump in the throat when you face an audience. Again, it is a classic case of throat chakra malfunction.
There are numerous such phrases that we use daily. On the surface, they may seem unrelated to the symptoms experienced, but as explained, they hold a deeper meaning. Fascinating, isn’t it?